One the Subject of Personal Accountability...

”All blame is a waste of time. 

No matter how much fault you find with another, 

and regardless of how much you blame that person, it will not change you. 

The only thing blame does is to keep the focus off you 

when you are looking for external reasons to explain your unhappiness or frustration. 

You may succeed in making another feel guilty about something by blaming the individual, 

but you won’t succeed in changing whatever it is about you that is making you unhappy.”

– Wayne Dyer

When you plant lettuce, if it does not grow well, you don't blame the lettuce. 

You look into the reasons it is not doing well. It may need fertilizer, or more water, or less sun. 

You never blame the lettuce. 

Yet if we have problems with our friends or our family, we blame the other person. 

But if we know how to take care of them, they will grow well, like lettuce. 

Blaming has no positive effect at all, nor does trying to persuade using reason and arguments. 

That is my experience. No blame, no reasoning, no argument, just understanding. 

If you understand, and you show that you understand, you can love, and the situation will change. -

Thich Nhat Hanh

One Love. One Peace. Always and all ways.